Legitimate Sexpectations
Katrina Marson (Scribe, available now)
Legitimate Sexpectations is our First Book Club pick for September—Read the transcript of our in-conversation live event with the author and First Book Club host Ellen Cregan!
Sex-ed in Australian schools is inadequate. Many students leave school with few instructions and maybe how to roll a condom over a banana. In Legitimate Sexpectations, Katrina Marson shows us why what we teach young people must go beyond ‘no means no’ and how our collective attitudes towards sex and education must change if we are to protect future generations from sexual violence.
Marson begins her book with the sobering reminder that sexual harassment is ‘a very dark and dangerous thing, and yet it is a very ordinary thing. It is not overstating it to say sexual violence is ubiquitous.’ As a former criminal lawyer, Marson has engaged with issues of sexual violence through both professional and academic avenues. Statistics about rape, assault and violence are listed to support quite a few of her arguments. But Marson takes a pragmatic approach to this complex issue, making this book an approachable read for anyone. Each chapter begins with a fictional case study that illustrates an aspect of sex-ed. At the points in the book that risk becoming slightly bogged down in terminology and statistics, she is able to call back to that narrative and recapture her readers attention, making her arguments feel less abstract.
Marson shows us why what we teach young people must go beyond ‘no means no.’
Marson identifies that sexual education is seen as a moral issue, but subject to egregious double standards. The risk of sexual violence is especially high for young women, LGBTQIA+ people and disabled people, all of whom are represented in her narrative case studies. She notes that programs designed to prevent gendered violence are supported at a state and federal governmental level and are delivered to parents, educators and kids, while rarely seen as being controversial. However sex-ed is a very different story. Throughout the book, there are anecdotes from people working in the education space about parents pulling kids from programs designed to teach consent and encourage respectful sexual behaviour. Marson believes that reactions like these pose an important question: ‘we might all agree that violence is unacceptable, but do we all agree on common values when it comes to sex, sexuality, and relationships?’ While it would be easy to place blame on specific people—parents, teachers, legislators—Marson instead shows the ways in which our collective cultural attitudes towards sex are letting young people down.
Legitimate Sexpectations pitches a very achievable path to a world with less sexual violence. Marson shows us again and again just how frustratingly within-reach this future is, and readers are left with the understanding that creating this world is the responsibility of the community.
— Ellen Cregan



