Vodka & Apple Juice
Jay Martin (Fremantle Press, available now)
Vodka & Apple Juice is our First Book Club pick for September – read an extract, read Jay Martin on her experience of writing the book, and hear an interview with the author on the latest KYD Podcast.
Expat life in Poland is not a topic I ever thought I’d know much about. But after reading Jay Martin’s memoir of three years spent alongside her diplomat husband living in Poland, I now feel quite well-versed on the subject.
While her husband works demanding hours, Martin spends her days trying to find the right places to purchase carrots, washing powder and coriander. But the transition from full time worker to stay-at-home wife is not one that Martin slips into easily. Saddled with most of the home duties, Martin uses her time to become proficient in the language. As a result, she experiences much more of Poland and Polish culture than her husband. He might be bringing in all the income, but only she has full access to the world they now live in. This imbalance in her and her husband’s daily lives is the source of a lot of frustration for both of them, and starts to weigh heavily on their marriage.
Many of the women Martin meets in her time in Poland are in a similar situation to her – following their husband’s work to foreign country after foreign country, endlessly living the expat lifestyle. At one point in the book, Martin comments that there aren’t a lot of expat husbands around; those she has heard of have eventually returned home after a relationship breakdown. This is a very interesting observation – the women of Martin’s world may be doing ‘nothing’, but for a man, contending with the isolation that comes with a new place, a new language, and a new culture, is too much.
Some of the best moments of this book occur when Martin is able to connect with people in Polish, and both parties see each other in a totally new way.
While she values her new, comparatively carefree lifestyle and acknowledges the privileges that allow her to travel freely and easily around Europe, there is a sense that it can be a struggle to find mentally stimulating and meaningful ways to spend her time. Still, Martin’s travels around Poland take her to places and events that are fabulously unexpected: a wet grass scything tournament, supermarkets where no one seems to queue, a Russian seaside village that reminds her of childhood summers back in Australia. She meets people who have survived both the devastation of World War II and the brutality of communism under the USSR. Polish people seem shocked that a foreigner would bother to learn their language at all, and as such, Martin often passes for Polish, meaning locals let their guard down around her. Some of the best moments of this book occur when Martin is able to connect with people in Polish, and both parties see each other in a totally new way.
Travel memoirs from this part of the world are few and far between. After reading this book, it’s hard to comprehend why that is – Poland is country with an exceptionally rich culture and history, and Vodka & Apple Juice captures Polish life with a lot of tenderness and humour.
– Ellen Cregan



